Vulnerability is not something we usually associate with being powerful. Quite the opposite in fact. Yet, it is indeed one of our greatest strengths as human beings. It is where we connect the deepest with ourselves and others. It perhaps is the core of our humanity. It is vulnerability that so many other emotions spring from. Particularly those emotions where we feel our deepest hurt and pain, that we work so hard at not feeling or protecting ourselves from feeling. Sympathy. Empathy. Blame. Shame. Guilt and so on. Everyone who has lived before us and everyone that will live, feels these emotions at sometime or another during their life. Its inevitable. There is no escape just as there is no escape from death and taxes.
But did you know there is a signficant difference between Empathy and Sympathy? How could it be that Sympathy distances us from others and erodes relationships, while Empathy connects us and strengthens relationships with others? Did you know Blame is simply a “discharge of discomfort and pain” – is a form of “armouring up” to protect our heart – and “has an inverse relationship to Accountability”? Furthermore, did you know “Accountability, by definition, is a vulnerable process” that builds relationship, while “Blame is very corrosive to relationships” and destroys them. Lastly, do you know the difference between Shame and Guilt, where Shame destroys one’s self worth as person resulting in countless destructive behaviours, compared to Guilt that is about a specific behaviour, but leaves intact one’s self-worth and value as a person?
Do you desire to understand yourself and others more? Would you like to strengthen your emotional and relational abilities, thereby improve and strengthen your relationships with others, friends and family? Then I encourage you to watch the following video, where influential author and speaker Dr. Brené Brown “tackles the myth that vulnerability is a weakness” and convincingly argues, with the support of research, how in fact vulnerability “is the clearest path to courage and meaningful connection, and has the power to transform the way we engage and educate.” Guaranteed you will learn more about yourself and others in the 20 something minutes it takes to watch this then you’ve likely learned in a long time. I know I sure did. Here’s to being vulnerable and letting the armour around our hearts melt away. Namaste. 🙂 ❤