Addicted to Love


547542_509503969109474_1675452984_nHave you ever been in love and suffered or caused another the suffering of a broken heart from love rejected? Probably you have since Helen Fisher’s research shows about 95% of us have been on both sides of love gone bad – the dumper or dumpee. Have you ever wondered why when you are love another person, even after its over and sometimes even more so, they have “set up camp in your head?” Obsessing continually about them, feeling no higher high, “dancing with jubilation,” when its good.  Feeling like you are in hell on earth when its bad and ended, taking months, maybe even years, to get over them.

The reason is love is an addiction. The high of being “in love” is same as a “cocaine high.”  This is just one of the fascinating and powerful insights Helen Fisher speaks about in The Brain In Love.   There is no magic answer to help you change or control your feelings – the greatest high of a love fulfilled or the lowest low suffering of a broken heart.  However,  learning why feelings of  love are so powerful provides understanding and with that insights to how to manage.   As humans, love in all its forms and complications, is who we are and intended to experience. To choose to not love so to avoid potential heartbreak is living half a life, which is not living at all.

For me, a calm strength to simply let go, surrender, to ‘what is’.   I choose love, to savour the joy and jubilation when it happens and endure the heartbreak with all the love, compassion and patience for myself I would feel for another.  Trust and confident my heartbreak is temporary, in time my heart will heal and one day I will feel the dance and joy of loving and being loved again.  Amen to living fully, completely, with abandon, embracing all that there is to the human experience including love and heartbreak alike. 🙂  ♥

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abundance tetherer, social advocate, bodacious blogger, jill of all trades, rebel businesswoman, ah-ha coach, caring friend, soul sister, blessed daughter, laughin', learnin' & lovin' along the thrilling roller coaster journey of my life. Personable and perceptive, I'm all about the abundance, the glass half full, I get jazzed about making a difference where I can together with other people. Like everyone, I've lived through the good, the bad and the ugly times, personally and professionally, that are inevitable in life's journey. Along the way, I've been fortunate to learn non-stop, get a BSc.and MBA, and had my fair share of success over 28 years working with a fascinating array of people in a diverse range of industries, sectors and organizations, from single person entrepreneurs to global Fortune 500 companies.
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